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John McCafferty

Experienced relationship-focused counselor and coach

LPCC New Mexico

Experience
39 years in practice
Focus areas
Stress, Anxiety, Relationship, Grief
Approaches
Gottman Method, Client-Centered Therapy
Languages
English

About John

John McCafferty is a licensed professional counselor (LPCC) practicing in New Mexico. He brings 39 years of experience in relationship coaching and counseling to people dealing with stress, anxiety, grief, anger, and low self-esteem.

Background and approach

John focuses on clear, direct conversations. He creates a calm space where people can name what they feel and think without fear of judgment.

He encourages small, practical steps that fit into everyday life. In sessions he uses approaches such as the Gottman Method, client-centered therapy, cognitive behavioral therapy, and mindfulness.

These methods help people improve communication, manage strong emotions, and change unhelpful thinking patterns. John also helps with life transitions and practical coaching around purpose and commitment.

He has experience addressing issues like divorce and separation, infidelity, aging and geriatric concerns, and men's issues. He works to make goals concrete and doable.

People meet John to talk through relationship stress, to cope with loss, or to find steadier emotional ground. He aims to partner with each person so they leave with clearer options and steps to try between sessions.

Online approaches for relationship and emotional work

John blends the Gottman Method with client-centered therapy and cognitive behavioral therapy in online sessions. The Gottman Method focuses on improving communication patterns and rebuilding trust, which can help when people face commitment issues, infidelity, or separation. Client-centered therapy emphasizes listening and acceptance so clients can name what matters most to them and decide goals. Cognitive behavioral therapy looks at the connection between thoughts, feelings, and actions and offers simple tools to reduce anxiety and low mood.

Finding the best approach is a collaborative process. John will talk with each person about goals, preferences, and what feels useful, then adapt techniques as progress is made. This means trying practical steps in session and adjusting plans over time based on what works for the individual.

Online formats include video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging. Video lets people work face-to-face for conversations about relationships. Phone sessions can be a good choice when bandwidth is limited or for a focused check-in. Live chat and messaging are useful for shorter check-ins, quick coaching, or practicing new skills between longer sessions. These options make it easier to fit therapy into a busy life and to continue care across distances.

Frequently asked questions

What concerns does John commonly address?
He helps with stress, anxiety, relationship challenges, grief, anger, self-esteem, depression, coping with life changes, and coaching around life purpose and commitment.
How would you describe his therapy style?
Sessions combine client-centered listening with practical techniques from cognitive behavioral therapy and mindfulness, and he uses elements of the Gottman Method for relationship work.
What kind of experience does he have?
He brings 39 years of experience in relationship coaching and clinical work, supporting people through emotional and relationship challenges.
Where is he licensed and based?
He is licensed as an LPCC in New Mexico and practices out of that state.
Which languages are available for sessions?
Sessions are offered in English and he accepts international clients.
What session formats does he use?
He offers video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging to meet different scheduling and communication needs.
How is cost structured for sessions?
Cost varies with location and therapist availability; sessions use a subscription model that can be canceled at any time.
How do I begin working with him?
Click the Start Therapy button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule sessions according to therapist availability.

Areas of expertise

Primary focus

Stress, AnxietyRelationship issuesGriefAnger managementSelf esteem

Also works with

Therapeutic approaches

Client-Centered TherapyCognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)Gottman MethodMindfulness Therapy

Experience

39+ years

Licensed in

New Mexico

Languages

English