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Ray Woods

Relationship-focused therapist with 16 years experience

LCMFT, LMFT Oklahoma

Experience
16 years in practice
Focus areas
Stress, Anxiety, Relationship, Trauma and abuse
Approaches
Gottman Method, Attachment-Based Therapy
Languages
English
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About Ray

Ray Woods is a licensed marriage and family therapist who uses relationship-focused therapies to help people manage stress, anxiety, depression, and self-esteem concerns. He works from Oklahoma and brings 16 years of experience to sessions.

Background and approach

Ray aims to make the first step toward help feel manageable and respectful. He often draws on the Gottman Method to guide conversations about connection and communication.

He also uses attachment-based and client-centered approaches to understand how past patterns shape current relationships. Sessions are practical and focused on small changes that can improve day-to-day life.

Ray helps people talk through trauma, abuse, and grief with sensitivity and clear goals. He also supports those dealing with substance concerns, domestic violence aftermath, and the strain of caregiving.

Practical topics like blended family dynamics, communication problems, and separation are part of his work. His style is direct but compassionate.

He listens for what matters most and tailors the plan to each person’s situation. Progress often starts with simple shifts in how people talk and set boundaries.

People can expect sessions that combine short-term tools and longer-term reflection. Ray explains options plainly and helps clients pick strategies that fit their lives.

He welcomes questions and focuses on building skills clients can use between sessions.

How relationship tools and online sessions work together

Ray frequently uses the Gottman Method to focus on communication patterns and rebuilding connection; that approach helps people learn specific ways to manage conflict and improve everyday interaction. He also draws on attachment-based therapy to look at how early bonds influence current behavior and emotional responses, which can be useful for understanding trust and closeness.

Finding the right approach is a team effort. The therapist will talk with each person about goals, history, and what feels most useful. Together they decide whether to try Gottman-informed exercises, attachment-focused work, or other techniques and then adjust the plan as needed.

Online formats include video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging, which make it easier to fit sessions into busy lives. Video is good for deeper conversations and practicing interaction skills, phone calls work when bandwidth is limited, live chat can be a shorter check-in, and messaging lets people reflect between visits. These options give flexibility while keeping the work focused on real-life changes.

Frequently asked questions

What concerns does Ray focus on?
He helps people with stress, anxiety, relationship issues, trauma and abuse, self esteem, and depression. He also works on blended family issues, caregiver stress, communication problems, and related concerns.
What is his therapeutic style like?
He combines practical, skill-based strategies with listening and validation. Conversations are aimed at small, useful changes rather than long lectures.
What experience does he bring?
Ray has 16 years of professional experience working with a wide range of personal and relational issues. That background informs how he tailors treatment plans.
Where is he licensed and located?
He is licensed as an LCMFT in Kansas and as an LMFT in Oklahoma and practices from Oklahoma.
Which languages are supported?
Sessions are offered in English, and he is available to work with international clients.
What session formats are offered?
Sessions can be held by video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging. This provides options for different schedules and preferences.
How does cost work?
Cost varies by location and therapist availability and uses a subscription model. Subscriptions can be canceled at any time.
How do I get started?
Click the Start Therapy button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule a time based on therapist availability.

Areas of expertise

Primary focus

Stress, AnxietyRelationship issuesTrauma and abuseSelf esteemDepression

Additional focus areas

Blended family issuesCaregiver issues and stressCommunication problemsControl issuesDivorce and separationDomestic violenceDrug and alcohol addictionEmptinessFamily problemsForgivenessIntellectual disabilityIsolation / lonelinessJealousyVeteran and Armed Forces IssuesObsessions, compulsions, and OCDPersonality disordersPost-traumatic stressSelf-harmSexual assault and abuseSexual dysfunctionSocial anxiety and phobia

Therapeutic approaches

Attachment-Based TherapyClient-Centered TherapyCognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)Gottman MethodMindfulness TherapyMotivational InterviewingNarrative TherapySolution-Focused TherapyTrauma-Focused TherapyInternal Family Systems

Experience

16+ years

Licensed in

Oklahoma, Kansas

Languages

English