Thomas (Thom) Wilder
Experienced counselor helping people build better days
LPC Texas
- Experience
- 30 years in practice
- Focus areas
- Stress, Anxiety, Relationship, Grief
- Approaches
- Gottman Method, Client-Centered Therapy
- Languages
- English
About Thomas
Thomas (Thom) Wilder is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) in Texas with 30 years of experience. He focuses on listening first to understand each person's strengths and needs.
Background and approach
Thom aims to create a clear plan with practical steps that fit the person he is working with. Thom helps people manage stress, anxiety, mood disorders such as depression and bipolar, grief, anger, and issues around intimacy and relationships.
He also supports those facing addictions, caregiver strain, chronic illness or pain, and the daily effects of ADHD. Relationship concerns include communication, conflict, infidelity, and separation.
His approach blends client-centered work with evidence-based tools so therapy stays practical. He draws on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to identify unhelpful thoughts and Dialectical Behavior Therapy to teach emotional regulation skills.
The Gottman Method informs his work on relationship communication and repair. Thom sees the whole person - biological, psychological, and social factors matter when making a plan.
He uses mindfulness and solution-focused techniques to build coping skills and small, doable changes. Sessions tend to be collaborative and goal-oriented so progress can be tracked.
Thom works in English and accepts international clients. He offers a mix of session formats to fit different schedules and preferences.
To get started, clients complete a short matching questionnaire and schedule a time that works for them.
How Thom’s Approaches Work Online
Thom integrates a few straightforward methods into online sessions so people can get concrete help from wherever they are. The Gottman Method focuses on practical skills for improving communication, reducing conflict, and rebuilding trust in close relationships. It teaches simple routines and conversation tools that couples and partners can practice between sessions.Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, or CBT, helps identify and change unhelpful thoughts and behaviors that fuel anxiety and depression. Sessions often include short exercises or thought records to try between meetings. Client-Centered Therapy centers the conversation on the person’s priorities and uses empathy and reflection to help clarify goals and next steps.
Choosing the right approach is a collaborative process. Thom will talk about goals, try techniques, and adjust the plan based on what helps most. Clients and the therapist check progress together and shift strategies when needed.
Online formats available include video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging. Video works well for deeper conversations and teaching skills visually. Phone sessions can fit into a busy day or use less bandwidth. Live chat and messaging are useful for shorter check-ins, homework, or when writing feels easier. These options offer flexibility to match therapy to a person’s schedule and day-to-day life.
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Experience
30+ years
Licensed in
Texas
Languages
English