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Tommy Lopez

Faith-informed marriage and family therapist

LMFT North Carolina

Experience
8 years in practice
Focus areas
Relationship, Family, Trauma and abuse
Approaches
Gottman Method, Client-Centered Therapy
Languages
English

About Tommy

Tommy Lopez is an LMFT licensed in North Carolina who helps people facing relationship strain, family conflict, trauma and abuse, anger, and low self-esteem. He brings eight years of experience as a licensed marriage and family therapist alongside a long background in social work and human services.

Background and approach

Tommy writes plainly and meets people where they are when they reach out for help. Therapy sessions focus on practical conversation and skill building.

He listens for strengths in each person and highlights those as tools to move forward. Clients can expect a respectful, faith-informed perspective if that aligns with their values.

Tommy uses several established approaches when they fit a client's needs. He draws on the Gottman Method for relationship patterns, cognitive behavioral techniques to address unhelpful thinking and behavior, and client-centered work that follows the client's priorities.

Solution-focused ideas are used to set small, attainable goals. He often helps people address communication problems, family of origin issues, and feelings tied to abandonment or forgiveness.

Tommy also supports those navigating multicultural concerns and building self-love after difficult experiences. Sessions aim to combine listening, clear feedback, and practical steps people can try between meetings.

He encourages clients to take things at a manageable pace and to use their own strengths as the foundation for change.

Approaches for online relationship and family work

Tommy commonly uses the Gottman Method to look at how partners communicate and handle conflict; this approach helps identify repeating patterns and offers specific exercises to improve connection. He also uses Client-Centered Therapy, which focuses on listening closely and following the client's priorities so sessions reflect the person's goals and values. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, used as needed, helps people notice and change unhelpful thoughts and behaviors that keep problems running.

Choosing the right approach is a team effort. The therapist will talk with the client about goals, preferences, and what has or hasn't worked before. From that conversation they decide together which methods to try and how to adjust them over time to fit the client's needs.

Online formats include video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging, which make it easier to fit therapy into busy schedules. Video lets people work face to face from different locations, phone calls use less bandwidth, live chat allows quicker check-ins, and messaging supports ongoing reflection between sessions. These options aim to make ongoing care more flexible and accessible while keeping the focus on progress and practical steps.

Frequently asked questions

What concerns does Tommy commonly help with?
He works with people facing relationship strain, family problems, trauma and abuse, anger, and low self-esteem, plus related issues like abandonment and communication problems.
What is Tommy's approach in therapy?
He blends a faith-informed perspective with practical methods, focusing on listening, skill building, and goal-setting to help people make concrete changes.
How much clinical experience does he have?
Tommy has eight years as a licensed marriage and family therapist and additional experience from more than two decades in social work and human services.
Where is Tommy licensed to practice?
He is licensed as an LMFT in North Carolina and practices with that credential.
Which languages are supported in sessions?
Sessions are offered in English and international clients are not currently accepted.
What session formats are available?
Tommy offers video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging as ways to meet with clients.
How are sessions paid for and what do they cost?
Cost varies with location and therapist availability; sessions use a subscription model that can be canceled at any time.
How does someone begin working with him?
Start by selecting the Start Therapy button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and then schedule sessions according to the therapist's availability.

Areas of expertise

Primary focus

Relationship issuesFamily conflictsTrauma and abuseAnger managementSelf esteem

Therapeutic approaches

Client-Centered TherapyCognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)Gottman MethodSolution-Focused Therapy

Experience

8+ years

Licensed in

North Carolina

Languages

English