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Nicola (Nicki) Cartmill

Supportive counsellor for life and relationship challenges

BACP United Kingdom

Experience
5 years in practice
Focus areas
Stress, Anxiety, Relationship, Trauma and abuse
Approaches
Gottman Method, Attachment-Based Therapy
Languages
English

About Nicola

Nicola (Nicki) Cartmill is a BACP counsellor who brings five years of professional experience to her work. She blends clear thinking with a warm, down-to-earth manner.

Background and approach

People come to her when they feel stuck, anxious, bereaved or unsure about the next step in life. Nicki listens first and asks practical questions to understand each person's situation.

She helps people name what they are feeling and breaks worries into manageable steps. Sessions focus on small changes that make daily life easier, such as coping strategies for panic or simple ways to improve communication.

Her background includes supporting people through grief, trauma and major life changes. She also works with concerns such as anxiety, depression, ADHD-related difficulties, addictions and issues around intimacy and commitment.

This experience informs how she tailors sessions to each person. Several therapeutic approaches shape her practice.

She draws on Attachment-Based ideas to look at relationship patterns and on Emotionally-Focused and Client-Centred ways of working to deepen understanding and emotional connection. The Gottman Method also informs her thinking around communication and relationship skills.

Sessions are aimed at helping people make steady progress rather than quick fixes. Nicki offers a calm and practical space to talk things through, develop coping tools and plan realistic next steps.

She works collaboratively to build approaches that fit each person's life and goals.

How these approaches translate to online therapy

Attachment-Based Therapy looks at how early and current relationship patterns shape feelings and behaviour. Online sessions can help people recognise these patterns and try new ways of relating in everyday life. The Gottman Method focuses on practical communication skills and understanding interaction cycles between partners; it is useful for learning clearer ways to talk and manage conflict. Client-Centred Therapy prioritises the person's experience and pace, offering non-judgemental listening while the client explores feelings and choices.

Finding the right approach is a collaborative process. The counsellor will discuss goals and preferences and may combine methods to suit what matters most to the client. Together they decide what feels most helpful and adjust the plan as progress is made.

Online formats include video calls, phone sessions, live chat and text-based messaging. Video sessions let people read facial cues and practice conversations in real time. Phone sessions use less bandwidth and can be easier when a quick check-in is needed. Live chat or messaging suits shorter reflections, ongoing coaching-style support, or times when typing feels more comfortable. These options add flexibility for busy schedules and different ways of working.

Frequently asked questions

What kinds of problems does this counsellor address?
She helps with stress, anxiety, depression, grief, relationship and intimacy-related issues, addiction concerns, ADHD-related difficulties, and life changes. Additional focuses include attachment problems, codependency, infidelity, and career or purpose questions.
How would sessions feel and what is the therapeutic style?
Sessions are conversational and practical, with a focus on understanding feelings and building coping strategies. The tone is warm and client-centred, aiming to make small, useful changes over time.
What experience does the counsellor bring?
She has five years of experience working with people facing bereavement, trauma, anxiety, relationship issues and life transitions. That experience helps shape how she tailors support to each person.
What credentials and location are listed?
She is a member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, shown as BACP, and practises in the United Kingdom.
Are sessions available in other languages or internationally?
Sessions are offered in English and international clients are accepted.
Which session formats are offered?
Available formats include video calls, phone sessions, live chat and text-based messaging to suit different needs and schedules.
How do fees and subscription work?
Costs vary with location and therapist availability; sessions are provided through a subscription model that can be cancelled at any time.
What are the steps to begin working together?
Start by selecting the Start Therapy button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and then schedule sessions according to the therapist's availability.

Areas of expertise

Also works with

AddictionsFamily conflictsGriefIntimacy-related issuesParenting issuesAnger managementSelf esteemCareer difficultiesBipolar disorderDepressionCoaching

Therapeutic approaches

Attachment-Based TherapyClient-Centred TherapyEmotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)Existential TherapyGottman MethodImago Relationship TherapyMindfulness TherapyPsychodynamic TherapySolution-Focused TherapyTrauma-Focused TherapyInternal Family Systems

Experience

5+ years

Registered with

BACP

Languages

English