Shem Lopez
Relationship and anxiety counsellor
NCPS United Kingdom
- Experience
- 12 years in practice
- Focus areas
- Stress, Anxiety, Trauma and abuse, LGBT
- Approaches
- Gottman Method, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
- Languages
- English
About Shem
Shem Lopez is a counsellor who helps people feeling overwhelmed by stress, anxiety, depression or relationship strain. He works with adults seeking clearer choices, calmer reactions and more satisfying connections.
Background and approach
Sessions are offered in English and can happen online or in person in the United Kingdom. Shem uses a mix of approaches to match each person's needs.
He focuses on helping clients spot patterns in thinking and feeling. That makes it easier to choose different responses in tense moments.
He encourages people to name what matters to them and use those values as a guide for action. He has particular experience supporting people facing panic attacks, trauma, anger and psychosexual difficulties.
He also helps with relationship and intimacy issues and the day-to-day impact of anxiety and depression. Work may include looking at attachment and how past experiences shape current behaviour.
These tools are used alongside talking therapy to build awareness and practical coping skills. He has worked in independent practice since 2012 and brings 12 years of experience to his work.
Clients can expect straightforward conversation, practical exercises and collaborative goal-setting to support change. Sessions typically involve relaxed, focused conversations that balance emotional understanding with practical steps.
Shem aims to help people feel steadier and more able to move towards the life they value.
Approaches that translate well to online therapy
Gottman-informed work focuses on how partners communicate and reconnect. It uses structured conversations and practical exercises to help people change interaction patterns and rebuild trust in relationships.Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, or ACT, helps people notice thoughts and feelings without getting stuck in them. It emphasises values-based action so someone can move towards a life that matters to them despite difficult emotions.
Emotionally-Focused Therapy, or EFT, pays attention to the emotional bond and how attachment needs shape reactions. It is useful for people wanting to understand and shift deep emotional patterns in close relationships.
Choosing the right approach is part of therapy. Shem works collaboratively to decide which methods fit a person’s goals, needs and preferences. That choice can change as therapy progresses and new priorities emerge.
Online sessions make it easier to fit therapy into a busy life. Video calls allow face-to-face conversation and exercises, phone sessions need less bandwidth and can be a good shorter check-in, and live chat or text messaging suit people who prefer writing or want flexible, on-the-go support. These options help clients access consistent care across time zones and locations.
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Experience
12+ years
Registered with
NCPS
Languages
English